Recently, I have been praying through Proverbs 19:13b-14. It says, “…a wife’s quarreling is a continual dripping of rain. House and wealth are inherited from fathers, but a prudent wife is from the Lord.”
When I first read this, I thought of how annoying it is to hear the drip, drip, drip when I am trying to go to sleep at my parents house after a rain. The drip sounds like a siren in the darkness! I have to sleep with the fan on to drown out the annoyance. But this proverb is shining light on more than just an annoyance. If a drip inside your home is not fixed, it will begin to rot everything around it. The ceiling, the floor, the roof, wherever the drip is left unattended the area will stay wet and it will cause decay and damage over time.
A woman who is prone to quarreling is more than just a wet blanket! This wife becomes more than an annoyance. Her character will begin to rot the marriage. Over time, her husband will pull away, lose his patience with her and/or lose his desire to please her, or he might cower down and turn over his leadership in the home to her. Who knows, he may even throw in the towel and leave. This critical spirit will ruin a marriage. It will alter the role she is ordained to have in the home and it will rot! Sin will rot our marriages. Our whole lives will be ruin if we do not seek to honor God and turn from sin.
Compare yourself to this scripture. Is it easy for you to criticize and nit-pick your husband? Do you make excuses for this behavior by telling yourself it’s ‘just how I am’? Do you notice yourself easily annoyed by your husband’s actions daily? A critical and quarrelsome spirit is not encouraging and delightful to be around. It’s an annoyance and over time it will rot your relationships. Pray God reveals to you areas where you are critical and prone to quarrel. And make sure to read the rest of the blogs in this series!