An excellent wife is the crown of her husband, but she who brings shame is like rottenness in his bones. Proverbs 12:4
I think this is a great post to follow on the heels of having a UNITED FRONT. In some places in scripture the writer says the warning, before the pursuit. However, in this verse he gives the good news… and then the bad news. ‘She who brings shame is like rottenness in his bones’.
Shame is the painful feeling lingering in the back of your mind of something dishonorable or improper. This verse says she brings shame. Whatever her actions, he is ashamed of her. And if a wife is capable of bringing shame to her husband, it would serve us well to evaluate ourselves and think about what exists in our lives today that might bring shame to our husbands.
The deep shame that is like rottenness in his bones must be something a wife does that causes his crown (the wife) to tarnish. Her actions are proof that she has forfeited her allegiance to the King of her home. She does not live to support and love her King, rather she lives for herself and whatever pleases her. She does not uplift his authority in the home with respect and honor out of obedience to Christ; rather she sabotages his leadership by undermining his authority (verbally or non-verbally) while their children watch and learn.
Do you think your attitude or behavior could snuff out the joy your husband has for you at times? Think about it. Are you hard to live with? Controlling? Negative? Whether the writer is talking about the man being ashamed of his wife because she is a gossip, a liar, a manipulator or an adulterer; we do not know. Ultimately, the proverb warns us against acting in ways that would bring dishonor to our husbands. Our aim is to pursue Christ so that He is reflected in us. It is Christ who grows a genuine desire to love, honor, cherish and obey our husbands.
I hope you have enjoyed this series. You can download the full .pdfhere..